“I can’t do it all!” –Her words made me feel sorry that I had applied more pressure to an already overwhelmed young woman. I had asked if her family and she were planning to come to the mid-week small group Bible study. OOPS! Too much pressure! Her words were part explanation, part a cry for help.
She’s a mom of three grade-school aged children. The school year has just begun and so the activity level is ramping up at a frantic rate. I remember those days and even now get a knot in my stomach thinking of the tension and pressure I felt. This season of “Back to School” is both exciting and overwhelming for most of us moms. The calendar fills up with so many activities that between the “must do’s” and the “want to do’s” floods of panic sweep over.
Hearing her litany of activities was exhausting –especially since I am so much older and now less energetic than she in her prime. But as we talked, it was apparent that she has had the sense to think through what is on the schedule. Each activity was necessary and manageable. And she was sensible enough to say “no” to the extra mid-week study for herself, since she has a ladies’ Bible study that she has already put into her plan.
Her biggest need—and probably all of our need—is to step back, breathe and analyze each thing on the calendar and priority list. This season of her life makes it wise and necessary to be in her children’s classrooms. It makes it wise for her to spend time in her kitchen making wholesome food for her growing little ones. It makes it wise for her to carve out time for personal fitness activity. I was glad to be able to affirm and reassure her (from my “been there-done that” vantage point) that her choices were good and even though life is busy right now, it is most certainly a season, not a permanent condition.
We humans often forget that how things are today is NOT how they will be forever. So stop. Breathe. Analyze. Think through what is on your calendar. Ask yourself about each thing:
• Does it have long-range value?
• What or whose expectations have put this activity on the calendar?
• What would happen if we don’t do this?
• Is there anything NOT on the calendar that should be?
This season will pass. It matters what you do during it, and if it is extra busy, remember that it isn’t forever.
QUESTION: What items on your calendar need to be re-thought?